Anyone agree / disagree with the concept of platonic friends?
i mean, at some point something is bound to go wrong?
one of the ppl involved, at some point, does have a thought beyond the boundaries of friendship, even if they’re not admitting it.
any views? 
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I agree with it if the other person was gay – then i wouldnt have any thoughts of anything.
So no i dont agree with it .. i thought i had the greatest friendship with my friend, and we ended up dating. And everything messed up , even though we said we’d always be friends…
thats a scene thats only in the movies
Oh hell NO!!! there is no such thing as a truly platonic relationship, specially between opposite sexes and u never know ur best same sex friend might just have a secret 2, but the true test of a friendship is weather ur capable of looking past those thoughts and appreciating intellect and personality as apposed to giving in to ur carnal desires … love those words carnal desires hmmmmmm
Hey….Platonic friends? Yeah they exist…That is until one of the friends becomes involved with someone. Then it’s a problem. It’s a problem when the significant other feels threatened by the presence of the platonic friend. It’s happened to me many times…prolly why I don’t have any platonic female friends now! They’re all engaged, married or seriously involved!
I must say though, there were times that I thought that it was more than platonic…but someone usually got hurt….
my view – which isn’t based on any quantitative evidence
– is that: if neither is physically attracted to the other, then its more or less not much of a risk (although there is always a risk anyway).
if there is attraction though, and one (or both) of them is single, then i think there are gonna be thoughts of crossing the line by one of them.
its human nature to want to be with someone – and if you’re already getting along with them (as friends do), then i think you’re very inclined – at some point – to wonder if there could be more. whether you say something or do something about it though, is another story.
ditto dreamlife.
although i wouldnt quite box up just physical attraction, if there’s a definite mental linkage, there’s potential for things to evolve.
Plato was a rambling philosopher :p
lol..
as for platonic friends.. i think its possible to maintain that line in the sand in most cases, to be able to appreciate what is noble and loving in a person and not quite have to fall for them as such. female friends are the sisters that life affords us, but as a female its great to be able to have guy friends you can call up for the guy-point-of-view and vice versa!
this is lifes playground, and this is how we learn and lean on each other! lets not shut down the option for multi-dimensions!
vulnerable moments bring out confusions, but who better to crush on than a dear old friend
ok im joking, falling for ur best friend is possibly disasterous annnd ohh-too-easy.. the SAFE option. dont go there unless you sure itts a two-way street or you might just risk an amazing friendship.. but then again, if its really so amazing, it wont falter now will it!
rambles of a sleep deprived saunter
somedays i feel it could work…other days not.
today is a ‘NOT’ day…if u spend obscene amounts of time with the other u asking for trouble….
yeah i’m a bit of a cheeky one when it comes to friends that kiss, as long as you both know where you stand and have full communication going on it’s all good… depends on your outlook of how ’special’ sexual relations are, if you’re only rocking the 2 or 3 in your lifetime maybe not, but if you’re free with yrself and others – why not??? i’ve got a few close friends that i’ve gone there with, and we still as close as ever, all the cards laid out on the table so there’s no miss-understandings…
i hope i got the jist of your question, a tad vacant today…
peace from NZ
I think you can have a platonic friend and ofcourse there may be times when the boundaries could be breached. However if the boundaries do breach you shoukd be mature enough to realize that it may not work and the inherent risks of your actions. If you are truely friends you coud be able to go back to just being friends (easier said then done)
Mental attraction for me is the most important. You can go for someones looks but if their mind is filled with saw dust that external appearance fades very quickly. Imagine marrying someone just because you are physically attracted to them, when the looks fade the marriage will wilt and eventually die.
K
from everything i’ve seen, you cant- it usually always ends in disaster.
but if you know how to behave, which honestly few do, then you will be able to pull it off. difficult though!
*ponders*
i think we all deal with situations and people differently. Some are in situations genuinely for company, others are in things coz they’re searching. We’re all searching for something.
Men and women are created to gravitate towards each other, chromosomally dysfunctional:P
Across the board, ppl sometimes mistaken concern for interest.
Sometimes we just want good conversation and alternate perspective.
nope. note possible.
at sum point,wethr its left unsaid or nt,1 wil develp feelings 4the othr.mayb its jst a crush,mayb its of marriage proportns,but its there.wen u spend alot of time wif sum1,its definitly mental attractn which supercedes which in turn causes u 2b physically attractd.but it is possibl 2remain frnds wen sum1 tels u they like u n u dnt feel the same.if u r truly frnds
Platonic relationships exist.
But only after they have passed through their non-platonic phase.
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I cannot stand being surrounded by fools or ugly people.
Beauty is in the HEART of the beholder.
So…..
I surround myself with people that I find attractive, obviously in more ways than one.
Intellectually, emotionally & spiritually.
If however they are female I have to find them sexually attractive as well, otherwise the friendship cannot work. I cannot give the same amount that I would like to give in a friendship if I don’t also want to shag them senseless. You do not necessarily have to act on the feelings.
You just have to be honest on why the friendship exists in the first place. What are you getting out of it?
I just chose to have friendships with females, if that happens, only if I find them to be sexually attractive, as well as the three above mentioned contributes. I find that if you are honest from the start, first with yourself and then with your “friend” it tends to be easier.
Sex is in essence a simple friction process that our brain interprets as pleasure.
WE complicated it with not being emotionally mature enough to say that fun means fun.
THAT’S IT. Fun.
Love is a choice, not a feeling. Lust is a feeling.
Making love is not what we were taught it is. You and your lover making love (Read: having sex) under the stars or with candle light. Making love is also that, but only when your heart gets consumed with though for the other person combined with an itch in your loins. Making love is writing them a piece of prose when they are away or with you. Doing something completely out of character like remembering their birthday or going to your mother in law.
Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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