18 SNLV – Singledom: Do YOU Date an Easy Guy?

Inspired by blogpost by pseudo_name…

Oh well, that’s summing I’ve not been thinking of… MARRIAGE. That word currently equates an expletive in my vocab. I blatantly tell ppl it’s not on my list of things to do. Reading The Post: 24 f single made me stop and reflect.

*Start Flashback*

Flashback 1:

Last month I was invited out to dinner.
I’m 24…but look younger than my 21 yr old sister
We’re dining with a couple and their 6 month old baby.
She’s 22, he’s 26… the marriage topic crops up.

What do I say?

• Nah, I don’t have anyone special?
• I just got out of a serious relationship and I’m mourning?
• I’ve dated a string of guys and I can’t afford another failed relationship?
• Marriage isn’t on my list of things to do?
• I’ll get married for halaal sex:D

‘Don’t wait until you’re 24, or 25 until u decide to settle down’

I look her in the eye, I’m gonna be 25 this year. Of course, she’s embarrassed and tries to cover up. Shame:P

Flashback 2:

My last trip to see my mom. Old relative gives me the third degree of waiting too long, then I’m older than most guys who wanna get married. (Like hello what’s wrong with dating younger guys!)

‘I’m not married coz… YOU aren’t making dua for me!
If u were, I’d find a nice husband. You better start’

Of course by guilting them they start praying a lot for you Is that a bad thing. This response shuts everyone up and they don’t ask again

Flashback 3:

Family friends’ kid on the phone with me.

MunchKin: Hasina, please don’t get married now. Wait until its school holidays then I can come too.
Me: you’ll be my flower girl?
MunchKin: No, I’ll get tired. I’ll cry and act wild and say the F-word
Me: what’s the F word???
Munchkin: Funny!

LOL, kids say the darndest things.

*End Flashback*

So this brings me to the point… dating or marriage… Wats the difference?

Men are easy!!
its too easy to make them want you n turn them to putty in your hands, REALLY! Its only difficult to find one who’ll marry you haha

Maybe I’m very straight forward when I tell guys, ‘If u looking for more than friendship, you’re looking in the wrong place’ or my usual policy of ‘No Ding Ding without the wedding ring’ . – def NOT saying… or saying that i’m doing anything non-implicative:P

For those marriage hunting…
The older you are, the more difficult it is to find someone who is interested in you as more than a nice piece ass, the more difficult it is to assume that they’re a virgin (considering Islamic religious constraints)
Virginity, however, isn’t a big issue for me in any case, coz I accept that its so all too easy to be caught up in the passion. Brain shuts down and the rest is instinctive.
I do however find it incredibly offensive when guys (strangers) as if you’re a virgin.
I mean what the hell is it to them anyway?
Even tho I am, do I answer with a yes?
Next question is: how far have u been.
And all I think is:
Get lost loser. Mind your own fucking biznis (no pun intended) -
Am i being finicky? Or just SA Indian? Some things are personal.

There’s dating dating and more d a t i n g…
Dating as a means to getting to know someone better… a means to an end. End? Marriage? Or Dating indefinitely. etc
I reiterate: men are easy to read. You just need to drop the right signals and hints. And its too easy to attract one. Problem with that most times, is that its never the right one. But it only matters if you want to get married.

Maybe I’m fussy and have too many rules.

You never date an ‘easy guy’, if you play with him –
dating him is pointless coz all he wanted from you initially is a piece of ass, you can have him any way as well as get someone more interesting. Back up Plan? Dick in a glass jar – Break in case of emergency?
If you’re prepared to look beyond that…
Getting to know him and if he does everything the opposite of what he says, or if he violates the CLEARLY STATED comfort zones that you’ve discussed it’ll be just re-iterating that he’s not really the one for you.

Turn offs include: clingy guys, whiney ass klutzy guys, and worse…
the kinda guy with bad self control who think its fine to whisk out his willy when its the first make out session *CRINGE*
For heavensake, kissing doesn’t mean she wants more than that!!!!!!!
At least get to the second make out session!!