I read Legends : Theory of Housewives hence the topic.
Its attracted quite abit of attention, see also Waseem’s Post in response to it 
And… a flashback from one of my old posts
I re-read Legents pose… and I reflected on the women in my closer social circle.
Best friend 1 got married and proclaimed:
“I recommend marriage for everyone!”
Best friend 2 got married to her neighbour who happened to be her childhood sweetheart.
They later got divorced and he moved out…
back into his parents home…which was RIGHT NEXT DOOR!
Best friend 3 got engaged…
Me : what does he do?
Her: he’s studied engineering something, I don’t kow
Me: how the hell…. ? hehhehe
I suppose it is a bag of all-sorts but the topic of cheaters got my attention.
If i were at home 24/7 waiting for darling (fictitious) husband to get home from the office the boredom would kill me. I don’t think all women resort to cheating… its bound to be an often occurring case scenario.
This is real life people!!! It happens.
Does it just happen to OTHER people?
When do we become the “other” person? What if it happens to you?
Its not just women, Men cheat as well!!!
Scenario:
Married guy. Has a child.
Has a very demanding job. Has a very demanding wife.
There are married obligations, visiting her parents, shopping, investing quality marital time, outings… And still … he pulls off leading a double life, and keeping track of lies and cover up stories. Without slipping up. Unbelievable.
How can anyone juggle everything??!!
I know a lot of married people.
Doting couples, silly couples and nawty couples
Doting husbands married to nice shy naïve homely women, who sit at home watching telly and looking after children, cooking baking and other boring house stuff , while husband dearest is off at WORK, and working in some extra-curricular nookie. It is so common!
Picture Credit: MJ’s Motivational Posters
Recent conversation with a friend who is in an open marriage…{i don’t know wot the point of an open marriage is, but it works for them}
(open marriage: you’re married. You still meet, hook up with, shag, date other people but you’re still married)
He said: “when you’ve been married 8 years and you’re looking at the same pair of boobs every single day, when something fresh new and perky comes around, you may not act on it but it doesn’t mean that you don’t wonder”
Enough said?! Its human to be attracted to the opposite sex, whether or not they’re off limits is a whole other ball game. As the popular saying goes: hate the game, not the player *gag*
And then it comes down to personal morale and what you want for yourself as an individual…
do the right thing , the right way for the right reasons
Often it is a rule that’s difficult to live by.
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Open marriage seems to be bit of an oxy-moron. Marriage is built on trust and loyalty. What is marriage without that
I agree with most your points. I think the main reason is that marriage has lost its sanctity that cheating is so common place, almost accepted.
The one point I disagree is that it is human to look and lust and wonder over. I think when you find that someone, no-one else can compare to them. Like this one song from the movie Juno ‘I don’t see what anyone sees in anyone else but you.’
it all comes down to marrying the right person, most of us don’t get it right but we still stay faithful how ever hard it is, the scenario of a woman being at fault here totally escapes you though, its disappointing that you project the idea of woman being soft and frail and making men out 2 be these sex hungry friends, what if it was the other way around, and I mention this from personal exp. what if … just a huge what if the husband was loving and sweet and wife in question was an absolute ice queen who gave her husband every reason to want “extra-curricular nookie” but he never did/would even though the thought is constantly there.
i shoulda linked this one earlier:
http://icanbuyhappiness.wordpress.com/2007/01/29/marriage-partners-unlimited
My pointers still stand..
I still agree with wat i have written..
However, are u writing from an experience or just general..
LLO
@waseem : i really liked your post. Surprised that there was no satire:P
@Legend : your pointers were kickass
i found the Organharvesters response hilarious
AND…
perhaps i was just leeching off thoughts created by your blog
@xen: i’ve come to accept that karma does bite one in the ass, and not everyone deserves the afflictions they’re dealt.
Hey gorgeous,
Doesn’t matter what you write, you still want the fairytale, and you’re so observant and paranoid a guy will have a hard time cheating on you. Love da pic
Spoken like a true single-4eva girl that dates many guys and is never satisfied&is in a constant whirlwinds of dates that never go anywhere-and in turn tries to make all married couples question themselves and their marriages with posts such as these.
Typical
Well… if you are a avid reader of this blog YOU will know that I don’t write with an audience in mind. I don’t cushion my thoughts. It is a random personal blog where I don’t consider reader reactions.
Face it, if we all bothered structuring content around the politically correctness of society, we would become shadows of other peoples thoughts, ideals and opinions.
In addition to that… this blog, is NOT aimed at married people as you put it – and I’m pretty sure they have other things to do than read rants of people in blogosphere.
As afore mentioned, this post was sparked off by reading Legends blog entry on Theory of housewives, and I chose the angle of cheating for my blog post.
My blog is an Element of Vanity
it is all about me
While you so strongly make a judgment-call on ‘ever single blah blah’ *yawn*
What can I say, I’m opinionated:) and you’re still reading this!!!
There is only one ME out of the 6 billion people in this world. And the world is so much better for it
*wink*